As I look for the structure, truth holds me up and I find that I’m actually looking for love. The love that includes a gracious relationship. When I look for grace, it provides tenderness, empathy and I feel cared for. It moves me into the place where I feel attached and connected in my relationships. I find through grace that I am actually looking to build on the truth of authentic and real relationships.

Compassion fatigue and secondary trauma are generally interchangeable, but with a slightly different nuance. With compassion fatigue not only can we experience secondary trauma from caring for someone who’s traumatic experience causes us to become overly fatigued. The day-to-day responsibilities of caring for the ever present and continual demand to give compassion, sympathy and empathy can become draining.  

here are generally four attachment styles and depending on who you follow their may be some slight variations in the definitions.  John Bowlby was a British psychologist and psychiatrist who believed that children are born with an innate ability to bond with their attachment figures and is accredited with attachment theory.

When you look at the emotion wheel you will see the feelings in the center: Happy, Surprised, Fear, Anger, Disgust and Sad. These are the primary emotions and are more easily identified. From there look at the secondary and tertiary emotions. These help us to understand more about our how we feel and we are better able to communicate our needs to others.